Another Thought Experiment

Greetings!

A thought experiment. On how life works.

Imagine that you are outside in the park. There are many people around you doing various activities. You see a group of people playing football nearby. However, there is also a strange phenomena occurring on the field. Some of the persons playing football you know, and some you don't. The ones that you don't know seem to be moving at a very high speed in the field. Your acquaintances are moving much slower than the strangers, and your friends are moving even slower than your acquaintances. Both your best friend and your brother are also playing football, but when you observe them it seems as though they are moving at an extremely slow pace.

During half-time you go over to talk to your brother. He is talking to one of the strangers whom you observed moving very rapidly on the field. He introduces you both and you begin to chat. You find out that you and your new acquaintance work at the same company as you, and begin chatting about it before the game begins again.

When half-time is over, you observe the new acquaintance moving a lot slower than he did before half-time. His friend that you saw him talk to during half-time is still moving fast but slightly slower than he did previously.

This is an illustration of how relativity works around us.

Some things are very relative to our experience and so seem to "last longer" in our lives than others.
You may actually have two brothers. One that we see often and one that we hardly ever see. If may be that you saw both brothers equally when you were growing up but, inexplicably, one drifted away from your life at a certain point. At that time you and your soon-distant brother became less and less relative to each other. It could be that he became infected with a different family of bacteria than you did. Perhaps it was that he, growing up in rural Maine, had a girlfriend for a few months that was from Sweden and was infected with a different kind of bacteria than you and your brother were infected with. This new bacteria introduced itself into his biology each time they kissed, and he soon found himself thinking different kinds of thoughts than but a few months ago.
(You and your brother are not a singular consciousness but a collection of an endless variety of consciousnesses in a constant stream of interaction. Only a small serving of "you" is actually of human biology.)

Our physical body's "clock" is slowed down throughout our lives. We seem to have pretty much the same face that we've always had, while clouds and people drift in and out of our lives. We pass some strangers on the street without noticing them while other strangers become friends.
We have an innate sense for relativity (as our "body" is actually everything we perceive) and are in a constant state of "balancing" between what is relative to us at that moment and what is not. We seem to be moving through space and time because of this shifting balance, when any physical motion is, instead, abstract motion.

We illustrate the sudden lack of relativity of a person, place, or a thing, in our own logical narrative. A person cannot just disappear when it becomes much less relative. Depending on our own logic, they must develop an illness and die if they slowly become less relative. If their being becomes rapidly and vastly different from ours (perhaps because of a new bacterium or idea they had) then perhaps they die suddenly in an accident or move to an other country.
Our experience is determined exclusively by the shifting relativity of variables in our field of existence.

To add!

Importantly, it can be realized that, for example, if you have 1 bad apple in a bunch and want to get rid of the "bad apple" in your life it may not do much good to make that 1 apple irrelevant, as it probably has changed the dynamics of the "good apples" around it.

What is one to do?

Realize that beings and things contain a multitude of other things within it, and each is in constant balance with its surroundings.

You are not just one consciousness, but an unimaginable number of consciousnesses all doing different things. And so is the apple.
The 1 apparently bad apple may have "infected" the others according to how relative its actions were to the other apples.

You may want to quit smoking, for example, and destroy your cigarettes. But your entire closet (and maybe home) is also "smoking" and, thus, it is still relative to your experience. Bits of cigarette-ness may still exist all around you.
You may remember a single sentence someone said 20 years ago but not remember anything else they said. In a way, that sentence is now a part of your being much the same way your own words are.

To illustrate this process, you can say that if you truly want to forget about something you should also forget the other things that still remember it (and those things that you still desire that you think have nothing to do with what you don't want).